More Detailed Update

There’s only so much I can do via Twitter and 140 characters:-).

Ok, so many things…..First, about Chaya:  She’s doing better and looking better.  I’ll leave some pics below taken from my phone, but notice the swelling on her eye and side of her head….As the pics go on, you’ll see her eye a little more purple, but more open also.  I haven’t had a shiner in a long time, but I do remember the healing process being that it would get darker in color.  The swelling on the side of her head is not changing much….which is why she’s spending another night in ICU.  All signs point to her getting moved out of ICU tomorrow, but they said that about today too.

Earlier today she tried to eat some mashed potatoes and threw them up.  Since then, they would only let her have watered down OJ and some toast….don’t get me wrong….that’s understandable.  I have had ups and downs all day, partly due to the mixed messages we’re getting from doctors.  That’s probably because we’re in GERMANY in a GERMAN hospital where no one speaks ENGLISH!  Very frustrating to listen to them talk amongst themselves and then walk out of the room without saying anything to me.  I try to remain calm and not throw them out the window so they may feel a bit of what Chaya does:-).  Also, the chief of the hospital came by today and told us she would be there at least 5 days.  Now, whether that’s 5 from today or from when she came in, I have no idea….couldn’t get him to understand that question.

So, bottom line….We’re not out of the woods yet, but we can see daylight.  Chaya’s biggest problem is boredom and wanting to see her brothers.  When she gets moved, Gabe can come up.

So, about Gabriel.  I ask for your prayers for him, for me, for Ria.  What I’m about to type, I will probably never say to Gabriel, but it has us wondering what actually happened the other day.  I was sitting with Chaya and out of the blue, she said, “Daddy, Gabe didn’t mean to do it.”  Now that was totally unprovoked and up to that point, she had said she didn’t remember anything and we were telling her she just fell……not fell out the window.  So, I said, “didn’t mean to do what?”  She said, “push me out the window.”  Of course, huge waste that I am, I burst into tears.  I asked her what happened and she said they were play fighting and she was standing on the ledge and Gabe bumped her and out she went.

Number 1, I have no idea how valid that story is.  She is ALWAYS trying to get her brother in trouble.  Number 2, I was in a panic, but I’m pretty sure the first words out of Gabriel’s mouth were “Daddy, I didn’t mean to.”  Number 3, Ria called to make sure Collin, Gabe’s friend that was also in the room, was ok and he immediately said “I didn’t see nuthin.”  Today, Ria told Gabriel that Chaya was finally remembering falling out the window and his response was, “what did she say?”

Now then….you can understand why I ask for your prayers.  I have no doubt in my mind that Gabriel would not do that on purpose, but I do know that he rarely thinks before he acts.  I may never mention this story to him, but Chaya undoubtedly will.  Pray for his honesty and not so much so I can know what happened, but I don’t want this to eat at him for the rest of his life and, trust me, I know what “big lies” can do when you hide them for a long time.

Enough bad stuff….I leave you with this:

Chaya has been saying, anytime we talk about what happened, “I fell, but Daddy saved me.”  I just assumed she says this cuz Daddy was in the ambulance with her and with her in the CT scan room.  So, I tell her, I didn’t save you honey, I just did what Daddy’s do.  She said (which also sent me into tears), “no daddy, when I fell, you caught me.”  You and I both know that’s not true, but I, for one, am POSITIVE Who’s hands were there to cushion her fall…..and she felt God’s hands catch her….and gives the credit to me.  Makes me BOOHOO just typin it:-).  Our God is an awesome God!!  I did tell her it wasn’t me, it was Jesus, to which she replied, “ok, yeah, Jesus.”  LOL

I believe that’s the longest post ever to hit this blog…..I think…..Here’s the pics:

Early in the day

Early in the day

Still early...note the eye is closed

Still early...note the eye is closed

Where she slid down the steps

Where she slid down the steps

Later in the day--darker color, but open

Later in the day--darker color, but open

There ya have it.  Thank you, again, for your prayers!!

  • http://www.intensedebate.com/people/Pokinatcha Pokinatcha

    I love how you explained that Jesus caught her! Brought tears to my eyes! Will definitely keep praying for you guys!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Late to respond, but just wanted to thank you for all of your prayers!! We appreciate it!!

  • Josie

    That's just about horrible :(

  • Brandi

    Toby, I am so thankful Chaya is doing better and her body is healing thanks to our Father!! I will be praying over the whole situation w/Gabe and just pray that the 2 of them work out the details :-) …I am sure at this point if Gabe was involved he feels HORRIBLE and prayerfully he will approach Chaya and resolve the situation. Again, if I can help you guys out in any way, please do not hesitate to ask!!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Haven't been ignoring you Brandi!! :-) We have been overwhelmed with support and love from our church family. We thank you for the offer and the prayers!!

  • http://billgrandi.com bill (cycleguy)

    Thanks for the update Toby. Prayers continuing.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you Bill!!

  • http://www.hyenacart.com/lovingtouchwetbags Heather

    I don't even know you and your family. A friend posted a link to pray for her and she's been on my heart and in my prayers since I heard what happened! God's hand is on her! We will continue to pray for her and your family! Blessings!!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you Heather!! That's what I love about the blogging community. When God is involved, everyone knows. Thanks again!!

  • Maggievt

    Prayers for ALL coming your way. Thanks to 'Daddy' that she was 'caught'!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Amen!! and Thank you!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Lynse_Leanne Lynse_Leanne

    Thank you for the update. We have been praying for her and you guys in Birmingham, Al. Wish i was closer to help, but prayer is all i can offer. Thanks for sharing!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you so much Lynse!! We are amazed at how God has brought prayer from all over the world for our daughter. Thank you for being an invaluable member in His Kingdom!

  • http://twitter.com/bryanhill @bryanhill

    Jesus catching her brought tears to my eyes and got me all choked up…….God is Good, all of the time! Thanks for keeping us up to speed. Keeping you all in our prayers.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you Bryan for all of your prayers and support!! We truly appreciate it!!

  • http://www.jenniclayville.com Jenni

    I'm trying not to cry just reading this. Oh, Toby. I'm so praying for Gabe. That he knows he's forgiven. God is so good… and I am SO thankful He caught her. Her giving you the credit just shows that you are the best example of what God is to her. You're a great Dad!

    So glad this story has a happy ending.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you so much Jenni for spreading the message of prayer!! We have received many messages and emails from people mentioning you sent them!! God is good!!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/crucialencountr Andy McMahon

    man.

    We'll talk. :) Love you bro. And your fam. keep up the good work!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Things will hopefully calm down in the next 3-4 days and we'll chat!! Thanks Andy!

  • scott murphy

    Hello. Scott Murphy here. I am touched by these events and felt it important to comment about one thing. I think that if she fell as a result of being pushed, accidentally or not, it is important to acknowledge tremendous guilt that the boy (Gabe?) may be feeling. It might even be worthwhile to arrange a visit so he can see first hand the consequences of his actions if he is at all responsible balanced with gentle discussion and forgiveness from the adults. To address this guilt directly could save this person years of "issues" connected with it by not talking it out. I am hoping the best for all involved and for a speedy recovery for your adorable little girl.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you Scott. I'm confident we have it all figured out and that Gabe was not, in any way, at fault. All is forgiven regardless and we will attempt to start from there.
      Thanks again!

  • Paisley

    I will continue to pray for Chaya, Gabe and your family.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      We appreciate it more then you know!! Thank you!

  • Debbie

    Praying for you and your family in Huntsville, Alabama~ God Bless you all…love how you told about "daddy" catching her~The Lord's hand was surely upon her~

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Lots of prayers coming from Alabama!! We thank you very much!

  • http://gitzengirl.blogspot.com gitz

    Toby, I haven't been around much lately, but know I am PRAYING. Sending you much love and support…

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you!!

  • Penny Smith

    Toby…… Toby toby toby…. What a real man you have turned out to be. Seems like yesterday you were her age. what a wonderful father you've become. You have all been in our prayers. so glad Lori posted this tid bit on her recovery. You have touched my heart today. GOD BLESS YOU!!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Just happy there we no cars involved with her, huh? :-) . Thank you Penny!!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/DannyEason DannyEason

    I didn't even bother trying not to cry.

    My prayers are still with you and your family. Glad things are starting to look up for Chaya!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you Danny, for your prayers and support. It means a ton to us!

  • zelah trueblood

    my thoughts and prayers are with all of you…

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

      Thank you Zelah!!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Pastor_T Pastor_T

    Just a big thank you, again, to all of you and the many many more who have prayed, called, emailed, etc. We are at a loss for words at how God has brought so many people to pray and comfort us. Even when we are thousands of miles away from most of you, we truly feel close to home because of you.
    While this episode is not yet over, we have faith that God will fully heal Chaya. Thank you all again for prayerfully interceding on our behalf during this difficult time!
    God is awesome!